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Anonymous asked: I find it interesting no one has addressed your actual statements like pointing out double standards in how people perceive female characters vs male characters, and how they excuse many horrible things male characters do but use those same sorts of actions to condemn female characters. They're too busy making up arguments you aren't actually making to address those I guess...

sherlockfandomhateswomen:

But strawmen are so much easier to attack. ;-)

It’s not just that people are condemning a woman whilst excusing a man for doing precisely the same thing. Don’t you think questions of context and motive come into evaluating characters’ actions? Context and motivation comes into the process of evaluation. For example, Sherlock and Mary both lied to John: Sherlock about the Fall, and Mary about who she was. Sherlock did so because he believed John’s safety would be threatened if he knew the truth - even if he was wrong about the likelihood of John giving the game away, he was motivated by concern for John’s welfare. Mary, on the other hand, lied about her entire identity and history the whole way through her relationship with John. In the Empty House, she makes it clear that there wasn’t anything she wouldn’t do to keep John in the dark forever. She lied because she didn’t want John to leave her, not out of any regard for his safety or his autonomy, and that’s wrong regardless of whether or not John finds out about the lie.

You can’t just boil it down to a formula of: IF Sherlock Lie Good AND Mary Lie Bad, Commentor = Misogynist. It’s entirely possible that someone could have that rather simplistic mindset, but it’s also possible that they might have given some thought to their current position, even if they don’t always state the reasoning behind their opinions every time they call attention to the opinoins themselves.

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jimmriarty:

jimmriarty:

"We hate Mary only because she’s a villain and shot Sherlock!"

Ah yes, how do you explain then all the hate towards Mary before s3 aired? People hated Mary even before TEH because ‘JOHN LOVES ONLY SHERLOCK!!!”. They litteraly hated a character that wasn’t in the show yet only…

Of course i didn’t say that the people who hated mary before s3 and the ones that hated her after hlv are the same group. But Johnlockers are usually the first ones to talk like a group, so I did it too. Of course, I know that “NOT ALL JOHNLOCKERS!!!!!!” but I’m not talking about them.

I don’t think JL would be canon without mary. I don’t think it will ever be canon, because the amount of queerbaiting is very high and sherlock isn’t a progressive show (gay jokes =/= good representation). Also I don’t think it would be good queer representation, but that’s another matter.
I’m not saying that you can’t hate Mary, but hate her because of ship stuff is very immature. That’s all.
Also I don’t see that scene in that way at all! Mary knows that Sherlock is important to John - hell, she likes sherlock and she even tried to save the relationship between john and sherlock in teh, when sherlock acted like an asshole! - she just said that other people were important to John. That they aren’t his life. I think it’s important. A relationship where a person doesn’t have a life doesn’t have a life outside his partner is usually kinda unhealthy tbh.

BTW. In my post I was referring to the people who say that EVERYONE hates mary because she’s villain and not because she ruins JL.

My apologies. I thought you were implying that people who’ve said they dislike Mary because of what she did in HLV were lying to cover up that they had never liked her. I got the wrong end of the stick.

Obviously, the writers are the only people have the power to enable or prevent canonisation. I wouldn’t normally put it as simplistically saying that Mary’s “in the way”, but I definitely feel like she’s a wedge between John and Sherlock. Ultimately, I think she’ll end up serving a couple of different narrative functions through the course of the whole story, one of them being that of the romantic obstacle. If there’s one thing I know about any sort of narrative obstacle, romantic or otherwise, is that they are made to be overcome. Or at the very least, they have to fundamentally alter the status quo in some way, shape or form Otherwise, there’d be no point in having them.

It’s always interesting to hear different perspectives on the same scenes. The first couple of scenes with Mary didn’t make sense to me the first time I saw them. She seemed more interested in getting into Sherlock’s good books than she did in supporting John in his anger. At first, I genuinely thought it was just bad writing, that Mofftisson had forgone having her have a normal reaction in an effort to make her seem more likeable. Surely, when your partner’s best friend returns from the seeming dead, saying something along the lines of, “I know you’re really angry right now, and you’ve every right to be, but once things have calmed down, you might feel differently” is more helpful than just glibly saying that you like him, right? It wasn’t until I started thinking about HLV in more detail that it started to make sense. Mary needs Sherlock to trust her, not like her. She has to ingratiate herself to him in order to avoid arousing suspicion.

I keep hearing the unhealthy relationship argument, but I’m just not sold on it. I’m not holding it up as model by any means, but I’m not prepared to go from one extreme right to the other. Their relationship is pretty intense, and they say and do things to each other that I’d never dream of doing, but ultimately I think that they’re both a force for good in one another’s lives. I mean, the whole of ASiP was about John meeting Sherlock and his life almost instantly turning around as a result.

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fuckyeahjimlock:

But it’s funny how if you fall a little ways down the tjlc rabbit hole, you realize what these people are saying is “if this doesn’t happen, then everything is horrible”. What the rest of the fandom has already realized is that it’s already horrible, whether or not a little fan service is thrown johnlock’s way.

Do you mean horrible in terms of stuff like representation or horrible in terms of general writing and story structure?

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***URGENT PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT***

Grindr, a popular app for gay men, now carries an urgent warning for users in Egypt. According to many sources, Egyptian authorities are posing as LGBT people on various social media sites to identify and arrest homosexual people. The app is urging users in the region to proceed with extreme caution, especially when identifying themselves or arranging meetings/hookups. While so far the focus seems to be on gay men, all LGBT people in the area should be cautious. Reports show that Egyptian police have carried out violent raids on private homes which lead to the arrests of several gay men. These men were then subjected to disturbing medical “exams.” Police also raided an LGBT party last year, violently arresting many and sentencing them to up to 12 years hard labour. While homosexuality is not illegal in Egypt, athorities are using sexual deviance, debauchery and insulting public morals as terms for the crackdown. Many claim this fresh attack on the LGBT community is lead by President Abdel-Fattah Al-Sisi who wishes for his country to be more Islamic.

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jimmriarty:

"We hate Mary only because she’s a villain and shot Sherlock!"

Ah yes, how do you explain then all the hate towards Mary before s3 aired? People hated Mary even before TEH because ‘JOHN LOVES ONLY SHERLOCK!!!”. They litteraly hated a character that wasn’t in the show yet only because she got in the way of their ship. So mature.

People don’t act as a hive mind. It’s a false equivalence to assume that the group people who came to dislike Mary after HLV and those who disliked her before S3. Of course, overlap is possible, but the two aren’t mutually inclusive.

Moreover, maybe the reasons people disliked the idea of Mary before she made her entrance are a bit more complicated than it just being another case of the DIE FOR OUR SHIP trope. Obviously the death threat stuff was completely whack and unacceptable, but I don’t think its wrong to maybe feel frustrated when it seems like yet another ship that could have gone the distance from queerbaiting to actualfax canonisation is being squandered and written off as yet another bromance. That was definitely how I felt at the time. I did try to like Mary for the first two episodes, but her (fake) niceness was just too saacharine for me, and the way she teased Sherlock about Sholto to make him feel like he wasn’t important to John was really cruel.

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hotbisexualarmydoctor asked: I'm so glad other people feel the same way about Amanda's casting as I do. She just... She's an okay actress, but she's definitely not on par with the rest if the cast. It was very mismatched, and she was totally outshined. Also, this sounds petty, but she didn't fit in with the aesthetic of the show, if that makes sense. She just did not belong in that role at all. And that's correct; they literally wrote the role of Mary for Amanda without any other casting calls. Which is stupid as fuck.

frumiusmanxome:

This is a really long response and I apologize. I just got more and more irritated as I wrote and I couldn’t really stop. 

Yes. I agree completely. I’m not saying she’s not a good actress but Martin and Benedict definitely are better actors and it showed. I was fine with her in the beginning. But as soon as the big reveal was made I immediately was like ‘That was miscast’. I can’t think of a better way to describe it other than she can’t do serious. As I said in my OG post she was a good homemaker character. She was sweet, and had that bit of snark that made her kind of funny, and was that cookie cutter-with-a-picket-fence-and-2.5-children wife that John wanted. And I really only think that worked because from what I’ve seen of interviews, and the like that’s very similar to her natural personality. She didn’t really have to actually act, y’know? She just was herself on set and they filmed it.

But then with the assassin thing, she’s supposed to be this vague grey area character now and it just did not mesh. I could not look at Amanda and think ‘femme fatale’ the way I did with Irene (and I don’t even like this version of Irene). She couldn’t add a layer of believable depth to the character. When people said she was playing two different characters it’s because she was. And the whole ‘Moftiss didn’t give her the script until after TSOT’ excuse is still just an excuse. That was a stupid thing to do imo, because actors deserve time to prepare, but good actors know how to make the best of a bad situation. Just look at all those fantastic actors in lame sitcoms with horrible plots that still manage to come out as the best. 

And seriously, no casting calls? From that I can just tell that they merely cast her because of her chemistry with Martin. So they honestly only cast her because she was the wife type not because of actual acting. That really ticks me off too. I hate unfair advantages like that. Especially when it’s so OBVIOUS that she wasn’t a good fit. 

Benedict’s parents also upset me but to a lesser extent. They were basically there to play themselves, but because they weren’t huge plot points I didn’t care too much. Steven Moffat’s son though was just NO. To be a bit shallow here, he didn’t look like Sherlock and that’s a big deal to me that I can see where this little kid would have grown into Benedict. And also because it would not have been that hard to choose an actual child who needs a chance to break out acting instead of your kid who just by being your son will have thousands.

Acting’s a nepotist’s game. I am curious as to what Moftisson would have done if AA was a civilian. Hiring someone’s real-life partner can be an attractive solution for when you have to establish a long-term relationship between two characters without eating into the screentime. The problem’s made worse in that the audience wants to hear more about what Sherlock’s been up to than what John’s been doing because Sherlock’s the main character.

I agree that withholding the script from her for so long was a daft idea. What they should have done was let her be the only one to see it and kept everyone else in the dark. I dunno, maybe they thought it would give the game away too quickly if they let Amanda’s acting choices be influenced by HLV ahead of time. Maybe they should have shot that section of HLV earlier. I know there are some directors who have built a career on keeping their actors in the dark until the camera’s rolling, but that’s not really conducive to show like Sherlock. Mike Leigh can get away with shit like that because his stories tend not to have a super-specifc fixed endpoint that has to reached. Even though we don’t know exactly what’s going to happen in Series 4 and 5, I don’t think that that’s true of Sherlock

I’m undecided about whether or not I like AA’s performance overall. I’ll have to wait for this story line to run its full course to come down on a decision. I do like to think about other people who could have played Mary, but obviously the duality of the role makes her really difficult to cast. Nina Sosanya, maybe?

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